Grace Hightower
American philanthropist, socialite, actress, and singer
About Grace Hightower
Born 1955. Grace Hightower is an American socialite, film actor and flight attendant.
Grace Hightower is an American socialite, actress, and former flight attendant. She married Robert De Niro in 1997 and separated from him in 2018.
Career As a philanthropist, Hightower launched Grace Hightower & Coffees of Rwanda in 2013 with the mission of improving Rwandan livelihoods by marketing their products internationally. She is a board member of the New York Women's Foundation and the New York Fund for Public Schools as well as a member of Ronald Perelman's Women's Heart Health Advisory Council and the International Women's Coffee Alliance. Hightower has been honored for her work by numerous institutions including the American Cancer Society of New York City.
As a socialite, Hightower's gala 55th birthday party was covered in Vogue magazine by André Leon Talley. In 2010, she presented the Pratt Institute's Creative Spirit Award to director Lee Daniels.
As an actress, Hightower has had minor roles in various movies including Precious (2009) and The Paperboy (2012). Additionally, she had a minor part in the ABC TV series, NYPD Blue, in the 1994 Season One episode entitled "Zeppo Marks Brothers".
As a singer, she performed the lead vocals for the track, "Somethin's Comin' My Way", written by Dan Manjovi for the 2009 Precious movie soundtrack.
Personal life Hightower is of African-American descent and was raised in Kilmichael, Mississippi. She grew up in poverty, and worked various odd jobs to help support her family. Hightower became a flight attendant for Trans World Airlines, attracted by the possibility of traveling and expanding her horizons. Settling in Paris and later London, she worked variously as a mutual fund trader and restaurant worker. In 1997, while working at Mr. Chow, an upmarket London Chinese restaurant and celebrity hangout, she met and began dating Robert De Niro. In 1998, she gave birth to the couple's first child. De Niro filed for divorce in 1999 and sued Hightower for custody of their son in 2001. The two resolved their differences, however, and by 2004 the divorce was dropped and they renewed their vows. In 2011, the couple had their second child, via surrogacy. They separated in November 2018.
Filmography Film Year Title Role Notes 1997 Brotherhood Cris Fan film 2009 Precious Ms. Turner (social worker) 2012 The Paperboy Yardley's Girlfriend 2017 Unspoken: Diary of an Assassin
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Who is Grace Hightower?
American philanthropist, socialite, actress, and singer
When was Grace Hightower born?
Grace Hightower was born on 7 April 1955 in Kilmichael.
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Grace Hightower is a socialite, film actor and flight attendant.
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Grace Hightower is American.
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